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We Are Incredibly Blessed….

But we forget it way too often. It’s important to take a look around everyday and see that. I’ll start, then you can do it on your own (This was actually wrote about 15 hrs ago but felt it was important to keep it in the tense I wrote it in at the time). First off, I am blessed to have a job that I love. It gives me the opportunities of a lifetime. For example, as I type this out on my iPad, with Kip Moore’s song “Beer Money” playing through my headphones, it is 1 am early Monday morning, depending on which time zone I’m in. Which I don’t really know because I’m also roughly 25,000 ft above the ground in an airplane than costs over $200 million. It moves people and equipment all over the world every single day. It’s the C-17. Here take a look. This is the view to my left:


And this is the view to my right:


We are all traveling back to Charleston after an exercise on the other side of the country. There are people on this jet from Florida, Georgia, Texas, Ohio, Michigan, Minnesota, New York, Indiana, and other states as well. The backgrounds cover any spectrum you can imagine. All the people on this plane have some role in making sure this plane gets up off the ground. When I actually step back and see the big picture, it’s incredible. I am extremely blessed to work in a career where I can be a part of something much bigger than myself. I am blessed to work with some of the greatest Americans the country has ever seen. I am blessed to work in a career that allows me to see the world. In just under 3 years on active duty, I’ve been to New York, New Jersey, Washington D.C., Philadelphia, Germany, Afghanistan, Seattle, San Francisco, “an undisclosed location in SW Asia (everyone’s favorite)”, Missouri, North and South Carolina, all over Texas, Florida, and Georgia. I am blessed to have a career that allows me to have not just a roof over my head, cover my health insurance, and feeds me, but allows me to have nice things (3D Tv, iPad, new truck, etc).

Those aren’t even the best things in my life. I’m blessed with friends who I consider to just be an extension of my family. Speaking of, I’m blessed to have a family that has always/will continue to love me, supported me in all I do, and in general just be total bad ass. I’m blessed to be healthy and the opportunity to live in a country in which people are free to say whatever they want, believe whatever they want, pursue any job they want, and the penalty (from a legal stand point) is nothing. My life is great. But I’m not writing to brag.

After all, I know plenty of people who have some of the exact same blessings as I do. Some have even more to be thankful for. The whole point of this post is to let all 7 of you who read this that we have to step back from our average day-to-day routine and realize how awesome we have it. Never lose sight of those closest to you and how much you love them. You have to try pretty damn hard to tell them “I love you” too much. I honestly don’t think it’s possible. When you complain about how “stressful” your life is, just stop. Is it REALLY that stressful? It might be, but most of the “stressful” things in our life really aren’t. Oh yeah tell me how stressed out you are because your job is ACTUALLY making you do something. What’s that? You’re stressed because you have to do homework? Hell I’m just as guilty for this next one. “The Dallas Cowboys (or your favorite team) is really stressing me out and taking years off my life!” Those aren’t really things to stress. We do that to ourselves. Stress is not knowing if you can put food on the table tonight. Stress is a servicemen driving in Afghanistan knowing at any moment he or she could be shot or they could set off a bomb in the road. Stress is not being able to pay medical bills. Stress is not knowing if you will have a place to live next month.

We are spoiled. We take life for granted. Nothing is guaranteed, except death and taxes. We don’t have time to be “stressed”. We barely are giving enough time on the earth to treasure our experiences (and sometimes aren’t). Life is wonderful for all of us. It may not seem like it some days, but it really is a beautiful life everyone has. Don’t ever forget it.


Don’t Just Learn to Laugh at Yourself, Love to Laugh at yourself!

The truth is we all do dumb shit. There are those embarrassing moments in your life that will never leave you. Whether it was an accident or a bet lost, there are moments in your life that aren’t your proudest. See the Example below (Still mad at Rex Ryan for that one, I still feel disgusting seeing I was captured having to put that ugly stuff on)

Something special is attached to these memories. They provide great stories. For me, personally, when an epic story happens that I know others would enjoy, it would be rude and selfish of me not to share it. So I will start by going over a handful of true stories with one thing in common; they all happened to me.

1. When I was attending my first day of class in 6th grade, new school, didn’t know anyone, I crashed my bike on the way there. Showed up with broken glasses, cut lip, and a bruised eye. Making friends was rough early on to say the least.

2. In 7th grade, I was reading the morning announcements to the entire school…my voice cracked as puberty reared its ugly head at the wrong time. I’m sure we all have a good cracked voice story, but mine resulted in the entire school knowing who I was for an embarrassing moment.

3. As a 16 year old sophomore, I fell off the mound while pitching against our high school JV team. Much like Tim Hudson did here. Except there was a runner on third, the game was tied in the 7th, and I actually threw the ball into our dugout while making the sound of a dying manatee. Luckily everyone was laughing so hard, including the runner on 3rd, that he didn’t score.

4. My senior year, after knocking out one of my two fake teeth during the weekend, and unable to see the dentist till Tuesday, I was able to make the tooth sit in place but I couldn’t chew on it or put any pressure on it. So naturally in my Monday morning Spanish class, failing to cover my mouth soon enough during a sneeze, I launched my tooth from the back of the room till it ricocheted off the white board and inches from my teacher’s skull.

5. I was told I could hold up the scoreboard at Jerry World…maybe one or two frosty beverages were involved…

6. After going 13-0 in beer pong at a party in college, during game 14, I fell into the dry wall at the home of one of my closest friends. I just sat there and laughed at him as I was the missing puzzle piece in his wall he never knew he needed. Ended up being $120 in damages (Yes I paid for it)

7. When purchasing resistance bands from the store about one month ago, I tried out different ones to see the amount of resistance I needed. I placed the bands under my feet and lifted the bands over my head. I forgot to secure the bands under my feet, and they popped up and smacked me in the balls. Imagine this guy’s face being my groin area, and don’t forget I was in the middle of the store (not the gym) when it happened to me.

Bottom line, I’ve had some funny stories at my expense (if you want more details on any story, just ask). Interesting enough, I can remember ever singe detail about all of those stories. And all I can do when I think about all those moments in my life is smile. And you should too. Not just at my stories (if you didn’t laugh at any of those, check your pulse), laugh and share your own. When you embrace these stories, it says a lot about you. Laughing at yourself shows you have thick skin and have no problems being vulnerable. It says, “I don’t take life too seriously, I just love the moment so much, I had to share with you.” I have yet to meet somebody who doesn’t enjoy laughing. So why can’t we laugh at ourselves just as much as we do at others’ expense?

Honestly, I don’t know the answer. There could be a countless of theories why, but I believe it really varies based on the person. It is also not enough to just learn to laugh at yourself. You must LOVE to laugh at yourself! Once you love yourself enough to constantly laugh at your stupidity, life becomes so much more fun. Now those little stressors of day-to-day life become an afterthought. It takes a lot to get you down when you can go “Hey remember when I…” then you laugh and go back about your day. I firmly believe that you have to enjoy life to the max, and the only way you can really embrace it is loving to laugh at yourself. If that doesn’t work for you, then think about my nuts getting bitch slapped by a resistance band so hard in the middle of Dick’s sporting goods, I yelled out a four-letter word and almost broke down and cried in the store. If that won’t make you laugh, I can’t help you. So start enjoying your embarrassing moments and laughing more!

Stating Facts…I’m pretty good at it

Quick recap of the football weekend: Tom Brady is REALLY good and the Broncos have issues beyond the QB. The Giants are looking like they did in ’07, the Niners might be the favorite going forward, and don’t overlook how good Ed Reed and Ray Lewis still are. Championship weekend should be a great one.

I realized this weekend a few things just talking with people. One, people mistake confidence for cockiness way too often. Two, lots of people are afraid to say they are good at anything because of point number one. Let me start this whole thing out by saying if you are going to say you are good at something, and really suck, then shut up. Or if you open your mouth and realize you couldn’t be more wrong, own it and enjoy that humble pie. Also, just don’t go around talking about yourself for any reason. That’s just weird and very self-centered. Now that we have that cleared up, let me define the difference between confidence and arrogance. It starts with being a self-aware person. If you know who you are as a man or woman, then you personally know what you are good and not so good at. Let me show you what I am talking about:

I am a great cook
I am prideful
I am a good baseball player (even if I don’t play anymore)
I am terribly awful when it comes to anything artistic
I am can barely ice skate
I am capable of throwing a great party
I am loud
I am willing to admit I’m wrong, but I absolutely HATE admitting that
I am a loyal friend
I am not always tactful
I state facts: it’s what I do (see previous fact)

I could go on and on about who I am. But the truth is, I know who I am. I don’t need to go on and tell you. If you know me, then chances are you already knew those things through my actions and/or loud mouth. So when I tell people what I am good or not good at, I am simply stating facts because that’s what they are: facts. People need to be aware that it is ok to talk good about yourself, because with that comes the ability AND responsibility to talk bad about yourself as well. If you can put the two together, you are going to be viewed as a confident person. It’s when you only talk about the good that people view you as arrogant.

I know plenty of people who just talk about the good in them. When you don’t hear anyone admit to anything that they are terrible at, or can’t stand to eat humble pie, is when you can find a cocky ass-hole who needs to be brought down a peg or two. I love that humble pie, keeps me in check. Example, I stated that I am a good baseball player. So when I play intramural softball if a teammate comes up to me and points out the one thing I did wrong (bad throw, fly out with the bases loaded to the pitcher, booted ground ball), even if overall I played a solid game, I can accept that. If I am going to say I’m good at it and mess up something along the way, I’ve got to be able to roll with the shit you will get with a loud mouth (like mine).

Don’t be so sensitive when people call you out. This act is what allows us to separate those who are confident and those who are cocky. They are doing it either to keep you honest and/or just to rag on you because, hey, that’s what friends are for. So from here, one of three things happen: you either admit to your downfall, tell them to suck it because they are wrong (and they are), or tell them to they are wrong when in all reality they are 100% correct. It’s that third action that reveals who the cocky people are. These are people who are so delusional about who they are/what they did, that they couldn’t possibly be wrong. When you can correctly identify somebody who can’t admit they are wrong, then they are just cocky and won’t be taking seriously. However, if one of the first 2 options happen, then go and state those facts, because you can’t dispute facts. Nobody likes to admit they are wrong, but if you don’t want to admit it, either be right or shut your damn mouth (talking to you Rex Ryan, 0-3 on that Super Bowl guarantee).

People will never mistaken me for a weak person. Some will view me as arrogant, which is fine with me. I would rather be viewed with too much confidence instead of being weak. I hate being around weak people. Show me you have enough conviction and confidence to be who you are, take risks, and stand for what you believe. Show me you have swag. Not swagger, swag. I love seeing people with swag. I love being around people with swag. Swag is sexy. Swag is dancing that tiny, tiny line that separates confidence and arrogance. Swag is knowing your surroundings, and how you can excel in those surroundings. Don’t be afraid to be confident. My thought is people who can’t handle a very confident person are not very confident themselves. I carry myself with swag, always will. I hope you can carry yourself with swag too. Be confident, not arrogant. Be your biggest fan and biggest critic. Don’t just turn your swag on at certain moments. Leave it on, there is no such thing as an expensive swag bill. Go be a more confident you. If you need help, I’ll work on bottling up my swag and selling it to you.

Is IT important to you?

Today, I overheard a few people talking about their New Year’s resolution. I heard the typical one, “I wanna finally lose this extra weight.” Of course you do. Just all those beers, lack of working out/activity, trips to grease-in-a-bag, and getting the number 1-4 while there just got in the way for the past umpteenth years. I never quite understood why everyone gets so pumped up about having a resolution going into the new year. Do people not realize that there are 365 days in each and every year (with the addition of one extra day every 4 years)? Why do you need the start of a new year to change something in your life? Are we as a society so blind to see that tomorrow isn’t given to us? There is nothing we do, as humans, that entitles us to having another 24 hours on earth. Each day is a blessing, and needs to be treated as such.

I do take the time at the end of the year to take a look back and realize where I have been and what I have done. It is incredible to think about all of the things that happened in your life over the span of a full calendar year. I’m not going to go into specifics about what 2011 brought me, but over many more posts, those will be revealed. And while I don’t understand the hype and excitement with resolutions, I normally at least attempt to have one each year. Just like most of us, it is gone and long forgotten by the end of January. So why do so many people fall short of achieving their new goal for the year? Do they set an unreasonable goal? I would say most don’t. I would argue that it comes down to this: it isn’t important enough to him or her to see it through.

My life is a direct reflection on what is most important to me and that covers all aspects. When it comes to people in my life, if you are important to me and I care about you, there is no doubt that you know it. I have no problems telling people what I think about them; whether they are cool, beautiful, a prick, incredible, sexy, talented, shallow, etc. Odds are, again if I care about you, you know exactly what I think about you. My career is no different, I love what I do and love going to my job day in and day out. With all that said about me, I’m willing to say to whoever is reading this right now that your life is no different. Just take the time to look at what you spend the most time on. Why do you spend the most time on those things? Go ahead think………………………..

Now that you thought about it, it should be clear that they are what you care most about. In other words, those things are most important to you. Some may argue that, “Well, such and such is important to me but…(inset lame excuse here).” Because the fact is there is NO EXCUSE that can be argued for anything important. America is still the country of opportunity. Ya, lots of it suck right now, but the truth still stands that if you want it, you can go get it. Now, I believe that last part of going and get it, many people misunderstand that. So many people don’t understand what work means. Self-entitlement, like that black goo that turns Spider-man into Venom, has leaked all over society. Many people, young and old, fail to realize that going and getting “it” means working your butt off. Example, anyone in this country could become a surgeon, no matter your background. But, is that goal important enough to sacrifice a social life, spend countless hours studying, years of schooling, and pile up mounds and mounds of debt? For many the answer is no, and that’s ok. But don’t be envious of the pay check those top end surgeons pull because they worked for numerous years to earn that.

We all have friends and family who can be viewed simply as a bum. We love them and they love us because we are important to each other. But they always have excuses for why they didn’t do this or that or why they aren’t doing more with their life. I’m not saying you can’t be a bum who just skates by all the time. If that is what makes you happy, then I am in no position to tell you to do anything different. However, it always seems like these people, full of excuses, seem to bitch the most about their own life and how much better you have it. Well, dumb ass, it’s because I earned it. So what’s stopping you from changing your life? Simple, YOURSELF! So quit wasting your precious time. If you care about someone, tell them. Don’t be scared about what the reaction might be, if they are important to you, don’t waste time and let them know. We aren’t mind readers as humans so communicating with those important people can go a long way to improving those relationships. Besides, who doesn’t like hearing nice things about who you are from someone else? If you want to change your life in some way, start tomorrow. If you are willing to sacrifice, then nothing will ever stop you. Don’t be scared of some sweat, elbow grease, and set backs because they will happen. If it was easy, everyone would do it. But again, if it is important, slight set backs won’t stop you from changing. It’s up to you, if you enjoy life as is, you got nothing to change. But if you are serious about changing anything, then, like Nike says, just do it.

Next installment will be a weekly staple of mine because I LOVE FOOD. Gonna be called Fat Friday’s. Clary is going to give his own take on the wonder of food, fat creations, strategies to picking out that fast food joint to satisfying any craving, and really anything that feeds fuel to why this country is so damn fat.